What’s your superpower?
The last blog post discussed boynumbertwo beginning to identify with his disability and recognise that it is something he is proud of, owns, thinks is special and is realising that there are others like him too. The discussions about this within our house have evolved…
In my job as an educational psychologist, I like to draw upon the theories and practises of Solution Focus Brief Therapy. One of the strategies used is ‘noticing’.
Noticing when someone is doing something positive, or noticing a particular skill, talent or effort that they have or are applying to a situation, and telling them so is part of solution focus. I love this way of talking for so many reasons.
Without promting, or attending the training courses(!), boy number one has begun to ‘notice’ things about others. He has recently been recognising when another person may have an additional need, and has an idea that all people with additional needs have a super power and he wants to know what it is!
He told his dad and myself one day that he believes boynumbertwo has a superpower of fashion (he does love a jazzy legging and a fancy hat) and another superpower of noticing things about people.
Boynumbertwo can spot if you have had a haircut, or if you are wearing something new or if a piece of furniture has moved (not a skill that lots of people posses, let alone a 7 year old!). I do have to agree that these things are some of boynumbertwo’s superpowers.
Boy number one has started trying to work out what everyone’s super power is. He tells me that his own superpower is football and making friends. Also true.
I believe that a superpower that he has is to find the positives in people. I have also noticed that he demonstrates a level of intuitive understanding to others who have additional needs. Whilst he shows no mercy towards his younger brother, seemingly no kit gloves or allowances in moments of rough and tumble or arguments or indeed expectations in their brotherly adventures, he does seem to have a good understanding of others. It is lovely to see this combination of no head starts for his brother, but a compassion that has obviously developed. He is beginning to understand difference and disability, and notice positive attributes. If only all members of society could view difference in this way- perhaps we wouldn’t be talking about difference, rather diversity.
So the question to you is; firstly, what is your super power? And secondly, what have you noticed that someone else’s superpower is?
I would like to invite you to notice these out loud and tell people what they are…